how to raise successful children

How to Raise Successful Children

In today’s fast-paced world, most parents aspire to nurture happy and successful children. However, despite reading parenting books or studying the life stories of accomplished individuals, many may find it challenging to strike the perfect balance in raising successful kids during their developmental years.

Psychologists have identified several key factors that contribute to success. While effective parenting involves a diverse range of practices and techniques to prepare a child for adulthood, certain principles consistently emerge among these recommendations. These include spending quality time with your child, empowering them to make decisions, and fostering a joyful family environment.

Here are some strategies that parents can adopt to cultivate happiness and success in their children.

Be Authoritative, Not Authoritarian

Developmental psychologists recognize three predominant parenting styles: authoritarian, permissive, and authoritative. While the first two prove less effective, authoritative parenting strikes a balance. It involves displaying love and affection while maintaining firm rules and high expectations. This approach fosters children with robust self-esteem and a strong sense of identity.

Instill a Sense of Responsibility with Chores

Research from the Harvard Grant Study spanning eight decades has revealed a powerful predictor of success: childhood participation in chores. When children aren’t engaged in chores, someone else typically assumes those responsibilities, depriving them of essential lessons. Chores teach kids the values of teamwork, cooperation, and personal contribution to family life, imparting the understanding that a tidy home requires effort from everyone.

Embrace Their Mistakes and Foster Responsibility

Allowing your child to make mistakes is part of giving them space to grow. For instance, if a child forgets their homework at home, some parents may rush to their rescue. However, this is an opportunity to teach responsibility and organization. Parents should resist the urge to intervene, emphasizing that they won’t always be there to save the day.

Encourage Risk-Taking

Taking calculated risks is an integral part of personal growth. By the time children reach adulthood, they should feel comfortable with the concept of risk. This means they should be able to explore beyond their comfort zone without constantly relying on parents. Building this independence is crucial for their future.

Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in Children

Cultivating children’s emotional intelligence in children is crucial as it prepares for the challenges in life. Emotionally intelligent children are self-aware and can rationally and calmly manage complicated situations. Family plays a significant role in teaching emotional patterns and management. To raise emotionally intelligent children, parents should lead by example, encourage open communication, listen, help them make decisions, avoid judgment, involve them in decision-making, promote socialization and play, and provide unconditional love and appreciation.

Develop a Sense of Direction

Competent adults can navigate their surroundings confidently. Yet, many parents drive or accompany their children everywhere, depriving them of learning essential navigation skills. Encouraging children to use public transport, bicycles, or even walk can help them develop a sense of direction and independence.

Prepare for Real-World Responsibilities

Parents often manage their children’s schedules, from sports practices to meal times. This can lead to kids lacking essential skills such as time management, task prioritization, and meeting deadlines without reminders. As children approach eighteen, these responsibilities must shift to them to prepare them for adulthood.

Teach Financial Literacy

Financial responsibility is a critical aspect of adulthood. Even if children don’t have jobs yet, it’s crucial for parents to instill fiscal savvy in them. This involves not only teaching the value of money but also the importance of saving, investing, and making wise financial decisions. These lessons prepare children for the real world and financial independence.

Leading by Example

Parents are, undeniably, their children’s most prominent and enduring role models. One of the most challenging yet crucial aspects of effective parenting is personal growth and self-improvement. To raise well-adjusted and emotionally balanced children, parents must first embark on a journey of self-adjustment. This journey is underpinned by the understanding that parents serve as the foremost role models for the behaviors they wish to instill in their children. A key facet of this personal growth journey is the cultivation of emotional regulation.

In summary, adopting these parenting approaches can help children become more independent and better equipped for adulthood, reducing their reliance on parents for everyday tasks and decisions.


Dr Faisal

Consultant Psychiatrist, MBBS, DCP, MSC

Over two decades of experience and skill in the assessment and management of patients with psychiatric disorders, Dr Faisal is adept in providing comprehensive psychiatric assessments. He is a consultant General Adult Psychiatrist with a special interest in adult ADHD, autism and mood disorders. He holds post graduate Diploma and Masters in Psychiatry.